Eleven things which every woman must write before the new year.

 

Eleven things which every woman must write before the year ends, I read Shilpa Garg's post on this subject and felt motivated to write eleven things which I would love to make public. On the last day of the year, I  have added  a  picture of an ancient Roman God , Janus, who can look back and  front with equal ease. We can learn from our past, the mistakes that we have committed and they can be instrumental in reminding us that we do not  repeat them in the coming year.Hence by writing eleven things, I may dwell upon my achievements and faults in the past years gone by. So here I go with the eleven things

1 What younger you would like about your present you.

My younger  one can tell my present  'me' that I am fortunate to be able to achieve in life what I wished for ! A loving family,  respected by friends and relatives.

2.The watched/ read it list

I watched many movies during the past few days.The ones I loved are 'Sath Saath' , 'Kisi se na kehna', and 'Chit Chor' all of them are  comedies. The books that I read  are' Pride and Prejudice','Life is what you make it' and 'The Mahabharata Secret'.

3.The Mistake You Never Want To Make.

I have never harmed any one consciously. I am now 78 years old. The rest of my life I want to live peacefully,without hurting any one. May God give me strength not to make any mistake.

4.Your Ideal Outfit.

I have always worn Salwar suits and Saris. With advancing age,  I am mostly confined at home, I wear skirt and blouse. I find it very comfortable.

5. A  Deep... Dark......Shh.... Secret

I think there is no thing which is a secret. Every thing in my life is an open book.

6.The  Most Unexpected Compliment You Ever Got

It was the last day of my retirement.  My Department was giving me a farewell. All the officers were present. The Secretary(Education) had joined only a month ago. I had not even met him. I was surprised to see him. There was a big gathering. When the Secretary(Edu) was asked to speak, I was wondering what he would say,as I had not met him even once. The words that he spoke  brought tears in my eyes,I can never forget, He said," I have never met this officer, Usha Menon.I went through her personal file and was surprised to see that in her 35 years of service she has always been rated as 'Outstanding'. She has worked under several senior officers and  always rated outstanding.  I came  here only to see her and to compliment her." His words were the best compliment I ever got from any publicly.

7. The One Quote

 The quote which I liked and always practised is Mahatma Gandhi's words, 'I praise loudly; I blame softly".

8.. The Best Surprise You've Ever Got.

About two weeks back on a normal Sunday morning, without any notice or a call, our grand daughter landed home. She came from USA, where she is studying, without any intimation. It was a very pleasant  surprise.

9.My real Happiness
My  real happiness lies in the well being of my family.My dear husband has not been keeping fit for some time. I am happy to see him smiling and enjoying as in olden days. I pray for his well being.
10 My favourite failure'
No body likes failures in life. I thought  and thought but could not pin point any failure which was my favourite.
11.An Amendment To My Bucket List
 I have every thing in my bucket It is already full of items,whether books, clothes, household things. I have every thing in plenty. I only pray that my family always remains healthy and happy.
 I have written this post without any one tagging me to write this. I am happy that by writing these eleven things I got an opportunity to look at life afresh. 
Wish All my friends and well wishers a Happy New Year.

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Reproducing  as Archives for B A R. on 8th June 2015

Haiku Heights #315 - Expectation

                                                    
                                                         





                                                         Silent prayer
                                                 of  hope, trust and belief
                                                   assumes implicit  faith.






                                                       Day and  night,
                                                she looks forward  for a call
                                                    expect the unexpected.





                                                   Great expectations,
                                            hidden  in  folds of  mind,
                                                    will they be true !!



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Prompted by Haiku Heights #315 - Expectation

                                          

Charity begins at home

 Today I  am completing  three hundred posts. In this journey of two years of blogging I have learnt many things. I have made many  friends,some  whom I met in  my early days of blogging,and continue to be my well wishers, some  others left , and some who join this wagon  occasionally and  leave. This has been a journey in which I  have experienced many trials and tribulations.  By and large I have   enjoyed  writing  on different subjects. There is a healthy reaction  between the  bloggers.

   Now follows today;s post
   In our daily life we come across many people. There are some with whom you develop friendship, and maintain cordial relations. There are some who come and go and leave a stamp on our mind.
An old adage ‘A man is a social animal’is very true..We exist in a society.We all need the society as much as the society needs us.It is a  case of give and take,  mutual trust and understanding.Some people adopt the ‘I don’t care’ attitude,but at some stage of their life they come to terms with reality.The question arises,  after all what comprises human relations. Human relations, as I understand, is the  interaction  between  individuals .This interaction can be  at the level of:

  family  members,neighbours, .work place  associates  and society  at  large,  which includes relatives and friends.

 No  one can survive without communication. For  the  water  that we drink,  the delectable food on our dining table , the house  that we live in and  hundreds of luxuries that we enjoy,  are the result of  mutual  human involvement.  Even  a  hermit , living in seclusion, is indirectly the beneficiary  of the labour  of others.   

 We learn our first lesson of maintaining  good will from our family. If a family is well knit and has a positive outlook, it will be transmitted to the members. Here the Mother’s role is very significant.It  is the mother who has to inculcate   good values in the children.The concept of  tolerance, concern for the feelings of others  and to a  large extent selflessness, good behaviour  and co-operation  is acquired by the children  in their early years . These  values get ingrained  in their system. The mother ,therefore,  is  a psychologist.who can  effectively  judge the emotions of her  household.  The  mother  is the  first and foremost  teacher.

 Next  comes the school. The school plays a very important part  in the development of the child.  The character  building process starts within the boundary of the school.The qualities of  sharing,  give and take  and shouldering responsibility  are acquired at the school level. It is within  the precincts of  the school  that the qualities of  head and heart  and  discipline are imbibed in the individual  and  equip   him to face the challenges  of   life.  Education  will not be   complete if the child is not  exposed to the vagaries  of  the harsh world.  It is generally noticed  that the  children who have not  taken  any  formal education, are by nature  not very  co-operative   and do not possess a very pleasing disposition. The  habits that we have acquired in childhood in   our school and college remain with us forever. In fact these experiences form  the basis  of human relations.  Education  leads us to the royal path of virtues   like  equanimity,  good will  and  fellow feeling.          As we grow  we   come across various characters,  young and old,  pleasant and not so   pleasant, fun loving and morose. We have to tackle  them  all. Human  nature varies from person to person. We have to adjust  with every one. I  have  come across  characters  of all sorts during the course of my professional life. Dealing  with  human beings enabled  me   to  judge the natural  bent of mind  of individuals  to a great extent.The test of  a person’s credibility  in maintaining harmony starts from home. 
We have many times noticed  that  some people  who  show exemplary behaviour ,have a co operative  approach  and are very helpful  to others in the outside world  are  dictators at home.They are intolerant  and  virtually  abusive  and insensitive   towards the feelings and  requirements of their own family. Such  persons    are   utter failures  in  life. If we are good  within  the four walls of our home,it reflects on our  face  and personality. It is true saying that charity begins at home.
There are ten commandments of  good  behaviour( These have been taken from the google)
1.Speak to people: There  is nothing as nice  as a cheerful word of  greeting.
2. Smile at people : It takes 72 muscles to frown  and only 14 to smile. 
3. Call people by name: The sweetest music to anyone is  the sound of his/her own name.
4. Be friendly and helpful: If you want friends. you must be one.
5.Be cordial : Speak and act as if every thing you do is a joy for you.
6.Be genuinely interested in people: You can like almost  anyone if you try.
7.Be generous with praise : Be cautious with criticism.
8.Be considerate with the feelings of others :Usually there are three sides to a controversy Yours, the other fellows and the right side.
9,Be eager to lend a helping hand:Often  it is appreciated  more than you know
10. Add to this:  A good sense of humour, a huge dose of patience and a dash of humility. This combination will open many doors and the rewards will be enormous.
 

Surprise homecoming of a lark

Twenty second  December, Sunday, dawned like any other normal day. A cold winter morning, when we get up from our cosy beds later than other days. My younger grand daughter, a dancer in the making, who  is the Vice President of the choreo society of her college, cannot  miss a single dance class.  She had a dance class and was in no mood to drive to her college. She wanted to be dropped  at her college. After a brief  discussion, whether her Mom or Papa should drop  her, it was decided that her father   (my son)  would drop the dancer . After the son and daughter left, we were just lazing around, when a tornado  began gathering strength, slowly  but  imperceptibly  proceeded towards our house. It came in the form of a telephone call..  It is nothing unusual  for the phone to ring. But on Sunday , it was a call which left me  perplexed, stupefied and speechless for a second.It was a call from  my elder grand daughter studying in Boston, USA. She is a student of Phd. (Physics) . She had informed me  early last week that she was going for a  camp for four days, along with her friends.  We speak with her every day. She specifically told me that there was no possibility of  a signal in the camp area. and that it would not be possible to access her.
 This  call was from  my grand daughter.  I was calling her since morning, as it was expected that she would reach  back to her house on Sunday, but there was no response. As the bell kept ringing I presumed that she would have reached  back  from the  camp. The moment I heard her voice, I  bombarded her with questions,  when  did she reach, how was the camp, was it snowing there....... She interrupted me and said," Dadi, listen to me first. I am not in Boston. I am in Delhi." I thought she was just kidding and without allowing her to complete her sentence I told her not to fabricate any stories. She sounded  annoyed and said,"Listen to me . I am at the airport., I will reach home in half an hour.  Don't disclose this news  to any one at home. Let it be a surprise." Wow, R is  in Delhi!  How she decided to come to Delhi  and many more queries were unanswered. But I was thrilled !!  My husband was sleeping. I woke him and told him that R is in Delhi, he was very excited.When my son came home, I told the news to him, even though I was barred  from disclosing it to anyone.  He did not believe me at first. He too was very enthusiastic. Soon after R arrived , the call bell  rang, the scene was ecstatic! We were elated. My daughter-in-law was taking bath. After her bath my son told her that a lady had come to meet me and was waiting in my room. The reaction of the mother , on seeing her daughter so unexpectedly was too emotional. Her tears of joy were dripping uncontrollably. She was almost hysterical. I felt it was all a dream. Just imagine she came all the way from USA without informing anyone at home!! She called her sister in her college  and the younger one's reaction was also of disbelief. She almost fell from the the stage.  Our  enthusiasm for Christmas celebration  knew no bounds. The house presents a festive look.

Haiku Heights #314 - Gifts

 Gift of god,

a sweet little baby girl

sent from heaven.

 

 Season of gifts

delighted every soul

manna of Xmas

 Here comes Santa.

  gifts  plenty full for all

kids sing carols.

Prompted by Haiku Heights # 314--Gifts

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A blessing in disguise

Mr. and Mrs. David, our neighbour,  planned to visit Kashmir  during Mr. David's annual leave. On the day of the departure there were heavy showers. There was water logging . The airport was  far from their residence. They had to report an hour earlier from the time of  departure of the flight. Due to heavy traffic jam, they reached  the airport very late. Inspite of their pleading, they were not allowed to enter the airport . They returned home disappointed. As luck would have it, the aeroplane,  in which they were to travel, crashed. It proved to be a blessing in disguise.



This true incident has been reported here (names changed) in response to Write Tribe Prompt 100 words on Saturday. The topic, ' Blessing in disguise' suggested by Madam Shilpa Garg ,a  perspicacious blogger.

prayer

   When I was small I studied in a  Convent School. The prayer which we recited  is still etched in my mind.The following prayer  is so deep rooted that I can never forget it.                                           

                                         Our Father, which art in heaven,
                                                Hallowed be thy Name.
                                                   Thy Kingdom come.
                                          Thy will be done in earth,
                                                 As it is in heaven.
                                           Give us this day our daily bread.
                                             And forgive us our trespasses

                                                  For ever and ever.

                                                          Amen
Being a Hindu, this prayer is always in my mind.A sincere prayer, which comes from the heart recited in any language, or pertaining to any religion  gives solace and alleviates our mind.  After all what is a prayer. It is our  conversation with God to thank Him for His mercies and to seek His blessings. We pray to God to solicit  His grace and  kindness for us and our near and dear ones.
   There are various methods by which we pray. Different religious institutions propagate different  forms  for seeking  the kindness of God Almighty. But one thing common to every religion is that we must be kind, truthful, sincere, earnest and righteous towards all living beings. The teachings of every religion is similar.Whether we go to a church, a temple,a mosque or a gurdwara the same God is omnipresent.

Church of Redemption, Delhi

Rakabganj gurdwara Delhi

                              

Jama masjid, Delhi.

                                   

Guruvayur temple, Kerala

                                                                              
  Prayers can be performed in different ways. We may read from the scriptures or recite it. We may sing or chant  spontaneously as we pray. There may be  musical accompaniment with it.A prayer must come from the heart. Whereas we may pray for one hour, but still may not be praying, but if  we  pray for five minutes  with  sincerity, it will have an lasting effect and will be heard by God.You must have seen in movies an old lady, with a mala in her hand praying, but actually not concentrating, giving instructions to the family or the servants. Prayers  may be offered mentally as meditation.. Often, there are prayers to fit specific occasions, such as the blessing of God for some significant events in the life of a believer, or on  days of the year that have special religious importance.
                   God is one .He is  the only supreme power. The power of prayer is such that it transforms  the complete  personality an individual. We all know that Maharishi Valmiki, a wayside robber,became a great saint just by reciting the name of  lord Rama. The power of prayer is real and palpable.It can be felt by an individual. This in it self is a gift bestowed by Him.God cares for us. We  too should ,on our part be steadfast in our devotion.  

     God knows us well.Every  thought, every action and every deed performed by us is known to Him.We can therefore go to Him  and bare our heart to Him.Some people approach god  with an ulterior motive. They offer 'bribe' in return for the mercies that they demand. He will shower His blessings only if one deserves them. He is all powerful and can gauge our feelings and emotions without our asking.
    I am a firm believer of God. I feel that He is protecting me and my family. I vividly remember that during my cancer surgery His presence  was with me. The dazzling lights of Heaven and His protective hands raised in blessing me, were  not only comforting but engulfed my whole being in His tender fold.I surrender  to God Almighty in all humility.
  In this week of  Merry Christmas I pray to God to shower his grace and kindness on all beings. I wish all my friends a merry Christmas.


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Reposted for BAR  on26 .01.2015