Charity begins at home

 Today I  am completing  three hundred posts. In this journey of two years of blogging I have learnt many things. I have made many  friends,some  whom I met in  my early days of blogging,and continue to be my well wishers, some  others left , and some who join this wagon  occasionally and  leave. This has been a journey in which I  have experienced many trials and tribulations.  By and large I have   enjoyed  writing  on different subjects. There is a healthy reaction  between the  bloggers.

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   In our daily life we come across many people. There are some with whom you develop friendship, and maintain cordial relations. There are some who come and go and leave a stamp on our mind.
An old adage ‘A man is a social animal’is very true..We exist in a society.We all need the society as much as the society needs us.It is a  case of give and take,  mutual trust and understanding.Some people adopt the ‘I don’t care’ attitude,but at some stage of their life they come to terms with reality.The question arises,  after all what comprises human relations. Human relations, as I understand, is the  interaction  between  individuals .This interaction can be  at the level of:

  family  members,neighbours, .work place  associates  and society  at  large,  which includes relatives and friends.

 No  one can survive without communication. For  the  water  that we drink,  the delectable food on our dining table , the house  that we live in and  hundreds of luxuries that we enjoy,  are the result of  mutual  human involvement.  Even  a  hermit , living in seclusion, is indirectly the beneficiary  of the labour  of others.   

 We learn our first lesson of maintaining  good will from our family. If a family is well knit and has a positive outlook, it will be transmitted to the members. Here the Mother’s role is very significant.It  is the mother who has to inculcate   good values in the children.The concept of  tolerance, concern for the feelings of others  and to a  large extent selflessness, good behaviour  and co-operation  is acquired by the children  in their early years . These  values get ingrained  in their system. The mother ,therefore,  is  a psychologist.who can  effectively  judge the emotions of her  household.  The  mother  is the  first and foremost  teacher.

 Next  comes the school. The school plays a very important part  in the development of the child.  The character  building process starts within the boundary of the school.The qualities of  sharing,  give and take  and shouldering responsibility  are acquired at the school level. It is within  the precincts of  the school  that the qualities of  head and heart  and  discipline are imbibed in the individual  and  equip   him to face the challenges  of   life.  Education  will not be   complete if the child is not  exposed to the vagaries  of  the harsh world.  It is generally noticed  that the  children who have not  taken  any  formal education, are by nature  not very  co-operative   and do not possess a very pleasing disposition. The  habits that we have acquired in childhood in   our school and college remain with us forever. In fact these experiences form  the basis  of human relations.  Education  leads us to the royal path of virtues   like  equanimity,  good will  and  fellow feeling.          As we grow  we   come across various characters,  young and old,  pleasant and not so   pleasant, fun loving and morose. We have to tackle  them  all. Human  nature varies from person to person. We have to adjust  with every one. I  have  come across  characters  of all sorts during the course of my professional life. Dealing  with  human beings enabled  me   to  judge the natural  bent of mind  of individuals  to a great extent.The test of  a person’s credibility  in maintaining harmony starts from home. 
We have many times noticed  that  some people  who  show exemplary behaviour ,have a co operative  approach  and are very helpful  to others in the outside world  are  dictators at home.They are intolerant  and  virtually  abusive  and insensitive   towards the feelings and  requirements of their own family. Such  persons    are   utter failures  in  life. If we are good  within  the four walls of our home,it reflects on our  face  and personality. It is true saying that charity begins at home.
There are ten commandments of  good  behaviour( These have been taken from the google)
1.Speak to people: There  is nothing as nice  as a cheerful word of  greeting.
2. Smile at people : It takes 72 muscles to frown  and only 14 to smile. 
3. Call people by name: The sweetest music to anyone is  the sound of his/her own name.
4. Be friendly and helpful: If you want friends. you must be one.
5.Be cordial : Speak and act as if every thing you do is a joy for you.
6.Be genuinely interested in people: You can like almost  anyone if you try.
7.Be generous with praise : Be cautious with criticism.
8.Be considerate with the feelings of others :Usually there are three sides to a controversy Yours, the other fellows and the right side.
9,Be eager to lend a helping hand:Often  it is appreciated  more than you know
10. Add to this:  A good sense of humour, a huge dose of patience and a dash of humility. This combination will open many doors and the rewards will be enormous.