The travails of a working woman
If you happen to talk to a working woman seeking her opinion about a working woman v/s housewife, you will realise that most of the WW (working women) prefer to be a house wife and that they are working to supplement the family income. They will state that they work at the cost of their children as well as their house. Some may not openly proclaim about their problems but they know in their heart of hearts that they are working more out of compulsion than choice. On the other hand the same question if directed towards housewives (HW) will elicit an answer which will leave you flabbergasted. They feel that they are inferior to WW. This is an eternal question,which will forever persist.
If we take an objective view, there are good points and not so good points as far as WW and HW are concerned. Let us try to analyse both issues. There is a saying that a house is a home only if the lady of the house gives her full time attention to the persons living inside it. Can the WW devote as much time to the house? A very big advantage for the HW is that she has all the time in the world to spend with her children. And the most important factor which contributes to the mental, physical and psychological development of the children is the presence of the mother in the house. Generally we find that HW don’t take pride in being a HW.They have a sort of complex that they are inferior to WW. This sort of thinking affects the health of the family.
The WW contributes to the family budget. This contribution is no doubt a very moot point in their favour. The WW today stands confidently even in spheres which were considered as mens’ domain previously. Women work as Pilots, Engineers, Police officers, and in many other high profile situations. In our country we have had a lady Prime Minister, President, Chief ministers and in other high positions. Even in rural areas women are stepping out of their homes to work as Village Pradhans, We find women taking important roles in diplomatic parties. They smoke and even drink without any compunction. BUT, it is a very big BUT whatever the position the women may hold , they are essentially Housewives or Home Makers. They too have families , have responsibilities and domestic commitments.
If we look at the lives of women working in not very high positions are to be pitied upon. They work in offices but thoroughly burdened by household problems .Most of them are physically present in the work place but their mind is elsewhere. The condition of many such women becomes more pitiable because they do not enjoy the fruits of their hard labour. The full salary that they take home is taken away by their husbands/ parents/ in-laws. They cannot do justice neither to home nor to the work place. I knew a very sincere and hardworking lady burdened by her unfavourable domestic life confessing her hardships to me. When she got a promotion she begged that her husband should not get an inkling of the raise in salary(which she wanted to save)
Most of the working women are burdened by the unavailability of domestic servants. Even though they are willing to spend beyond their means , it is very difficult to get good servants. Part time maids , if one is fortunate to get , have their own conditions. They demand a weekly day off and if they absent themselves without any prior information , they think that it is their birthright and cannot be questioned. We had a maid who used to tie a rope to the tricycle of my grand daughter, and go off to sleep and the poor child , also tied to her tricycle was per force made a prisoner. She used to eat the child’s food and proclaim that the baby is very co operative. The secret was out only when the child ,in her lisping words told all this to her grand father.The plight of working women thus becomes pitiable. I conclude with a quotation from the "Image" by Pauline Reage, "Woman...is the divine object violated, endlessly sacrificed yet always reborn, whose only joy is achieved through a subtle interplay of images..."