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Wednesday, 4 September 2013

7 etiquettes in a dinner/lunch

Today is the fourth day of Write Tribe Festival of Words and I am participating.Writing every day is very interesting.I am enjoying it.

Every one has  attended dinner/lunch  parties. There are formal and informal parties.What ever may be the occasion  we must maintain proper decorum and  table manners when we go to a party on invitation. You might have observed that some people behave  as if they have not taken any food  for several days. I am listing 7 etiquettes  which we must follow when we go out to attend a party.

1. Always be punctual.If  you have been invited at 8'oclock, you  must make it a point to reach at the stipulated time.We find people walking in at 10 'o clock as if  time has no value.

2. When dinner is announced don't rush to the table. Wait for the host to gesture you .

3.When you sit down, do not keep your bag/file/ or packets on the table. Keep your belongings under your chair.Take the napkin and put it on your lap.Some people put it like a bib,round their neck. This is termed as bad manners.

4.It is again a sign of bad manners to pounce on the bowl containing your favourite dish. When the bowl comes to you do not fill your plate.Take a small helping. Some people just shout,"wow my favourite dish!" and almost empty the bowl.Don't  make remarks like' too much or less salt'.

5. Don't go on talking.Give a chance to others also to speak. Don't laugh at the pitch of your voice.Talk softly otherwise the food may spill out of the mouth. Avoid speaking on your mobile phone. It is better to keep it on silent mode.

 6.    Don't cough, sneeze or belch loudly. If you have to cough/sneeze/belch say 'sorry'. Don't tap the spoon/fork on the plate.

7. After finishing food don't forget to thank the host and hostess.

These tips are for a party,where sitting arrangement is  made.For buffets there are separate norms, which I will list out  on another occasion.


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36 comments:

  1. Very well explained. These are few basic rules and etiquettes. I hate waiting for anybody in dining or parties when plates hav already been served in front of me..its really awful watching the empty plates actually
    :) Invited people should b punctual in home parties :D

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    1. Welcome Jasmeet. People think that by reaching late their importance will increase.

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  2. Crisp set of etiquettes.. Good one :-)

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    1. Thank you seriocomiker. Welcome to my space.

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  3. Punctuality is a rare virtue nowadays. Also one more point, keep the mobile on silent mode or switch it off

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    1. Welcome to my site.People want to show off by reaching late.

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  4. Punctuality is sorely missing now-a-days. It is fashionable to come late. :|

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    1. Yes Shilpa,being late is a fashion these days.

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  5. crisp and clear Usha ji :)
    punctuality is a rare scenario in Indian parties / lunches

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    1. Hi Afsan, not only in parties,people tend to be late every where. Thanx for your words of appreciation.

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  6. Good set of etiquette. The interesting thing is the strictness with which these are followed depends inversely on the quality and taste of food.

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  7. 2 and 4 are tough :) No wonder no-one invites me a second time :)

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    1. Never mind 2 and 4. You are welcome to my house.

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  8. Pertinent post Ushaji. I must confess I don't always follow them except punctuality.

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    1. Sfurti punctuality is most important.

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    1. Thank you Sarala. Glad you liked the post.

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  10. And the sound of chewing.... Grrrrr.... how I hate it!!

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  11. hey, Usha, It's sad so many of us lack etiquettes for food invite, I've seen people jumping on food..add to that, constantly checking the cell.

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    1. Yes Vishal we witness the awful sight of people on such occasions.

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  12. the most important is the first and the last ones but i always believe that when you are invited to dinner one must always carry a small gift as token of love and thanks and if you guys booze then a bottle of a good wine is always apt for the occasion.

    you can check out my post here-
    Karan - Brother

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    1. Yes Karan it is a gesture of thankfulness to carry a gift.

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  13. These days with phone in everybody's hands. Gotta keep that gadget away when dining ;)

    Great tips :)

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    1. Right you are.It is very distracting when people speak at the pitch of their voice. Thanks .

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  14. Gawd I need to learn one etiquette surly.I pounce on my favorite dish without hesitation.Though i do not empty the bowl as i have comparatively small appetite.
    But i am going to keep this in mind.thank you for sharing.:)

    http://sailorswiferamblings.blogspot.com/2013/09/seven-sacred-chants.html

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    1. Thank you Anu.Thanks that you benefitted by my post.

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  15. Isn't it funny that though these are fundamental good manners, we don't see many people actually practicing them!

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    1. Thanks Roshni.I hope someone will benefit from these tips.

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  16. It is so rare to see punctual guests these days...

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    1. Yes Reshma, punctuality is a word which is missing from the dictionary these days.

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  17. Such basic things, but some how so many people seem to be oblivious to it all.

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    1. You are correct WAD. Such behaviour is disgusting.

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  18. I agree with most of these,but,in Bombay,coming late to the party is thevIN thing

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    1. It leaves a very bad impression on the host and other invitees.

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