The Men in my life
Every woman comes in contact with several men in her sojourn on this planet. Starting with her Father, who is the first male she encounters,every child understands that he/she must have a mother and a father. The father figure has always been a symbol of authority and discipline in our family. We spoke to him only in mono syllables like ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Right from childhood till we grew up there was not much interaction with him. I and my brothers and sisters had a closer view of his personality only when we grew up. We understood that he was reserved by nature and hence remained aloof. I respected him and never argued with him.
I am the eldest of two brothers and three sisters. Since my brothers are five to thirteen years younger to me there was not much interaction with them. As grown ups we occasionally meet. They are involved in their family affairs. The younger one ,even though thirteen years younger, is elder than me in wisdom and worldly matters. My brothers-in –law too have their own compulsions and responsibilities. I know them as good and noble persons. My son and son-in-law have always been helpful to me and have a special place in my heart and life. Life will not be the same without them.
Now I come to the man who has been everything to me. He is my friend, philosopher and guide. Yes he is my Husband. Right from the first day I met him I was over awed by his personality. He speaks only when he is required to but whatever he speaks is meaningful and relevant. He does not like to mix with outsiders unnecessarily . He has a great sense of humour. He is very popular not only with his brothers and sister and their children, but also with my siblings. He is very considerate. Milk of human kindness courses in abundance through his veins. I am not narrating these qualities because he is my husband. Whosoever comes in contact with him forms a very high opinion of him.
I had a minor walking disability right from my birth.Ever since he met me he never mentioned about it. In fact when my father asked him if he was aware of my leg problem and still wanted to tie the knot with me, his reply was in the affirmative. He thus won my father’s heart. No other man would take this step knowingly. In our more than five decades of married life I have struggled with life threatening diseases.On all occasions he has stood by me like a rock, giving me great support and encouragement and instilled in me the will to bear all adversities. My ailments which included the likelihood of losing my eye sight, stones in gall bladder , stomach surgery and the biggest of all my cancer surgery, nothing shook him. He was always there for me. Any other man, if faced with such a situation would have left his wife to her fate. This brave man, whatever may be his own sufferings endured them stoically and never left me alone was always with me by my bedside stoking my morale and nursing me back to health. He never burdened me with his own pains and afflictions. I know when he is in pain, but he puts up a brave front and smilingly brushes away the topic. At this stage of my life ,when I am crippled ,he inspires me and encourages me and boosts up my will power. I know he is suffering bodily much more than me but he hardly ever discusses his health issues with me.
In my professional life too I succeeded only because of his support. I started my career as a teacher and went on to become the additional Director of Education. Hardly 2% of the teachers reach the pinnacle of glory They say that behind every man’s success there is a woman but I can proudly say that the secret of my success is the inspiration, encouragement and moral support of my husband. He is a great soldier who has fought several challenging battles in his life and has come out victorious. My prayers are always with him. Great MAN I salute you. May your protective hand always be with me. I proclaim that he is my
real life HERO battling on all fronts incessently!