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Saturday 20 April 2013

Men in my life



The Men in my life
 Every woman comes in contact with several men in her sojourn on this planet. Starting with her Father, who is the first male she encounters,every child understands that he/she must have a mother and a father. The father figure has always been a symbol of authority and discipline in our family. We spoke  to him only in mono syllables like ‘yes’ or ‘no’.   Right from childhood till we grew up there was not much interaction with him. I and  my brothers and sisters  had a closer view of his personality only when we grew up. We understood that he was reserved by nature and hence remained aloof. I respected him and never argued with him.
I am the eldest of two brothers and three sisters.  Since my brothers are  five to  thirteen years younger to me there was not much interaction with them. As grown ups we occasionally meet. They are involved in their family affairs. The younger one ,even though thirteen years younger, is elder than me in wisdom and worldly matters.  My brothers-in –law too have their own compulsions and responsibilities. I know them as good and noble persons. My son and son-in-law  have always been helpful to me and have a special place in my heart and life. Life will not be the same without them.
Now I come to the man who has been everything to me. He is my friend, philosopher and guide. Yes he is my Husband.  Right from the first day I met him I was over awed by his personality. He speaks only when he is required to but whatever he speaks is meaningful and relevant. He does not like to mix with outsiders unnecessarily . He has a great sense of humour. He is very popular not only with his brothers and sister and their children, but also with my siblings.  He is very considerate. Milk of human kindness courses in abundance through his veins. I am not narrating these qualities because he is my husband. Whosoever comes in contact with him forms a very high opinion of him. 
 I had a minor walking disability right from my birth.Ever since he met me he never mentioned about it. In fact when my father asked him if he was aware of my leg problem and still wanted to tie the knot with me, his reply was in the affirmative.  He thus  won my father’s heart. No other man would take this step knowingly. In our more than five decades of married life I have struggled with life threatening  diseases.On all occasions  he has stood by  me like a rock, giving  me   great support and encouragement and  instilled  in me the will to bear all adversities. My ailments which included the  likelihood of losing my eye sight, stones in gall bladder , stomach surgery and the biggest of all my cancer surgery, nothing shook him. He was always there for me. Any other man, if faced with such  a situation would have left his wife to her fate. This brave man, whatever may be his own  sufferings endured them stoically and never left me alone  was  always with me by my bedside  stoking my morale and nursing me back to health. He never burdened  me with his  own pains and afflictions. I know when he is in pain, but he puts up a brave front and smilingly brushes away the topic. At this stage of my life ,when I am  crippled ,he inspires me and encourages me  and boosts up  my will power. I know he is suffering bodily much more than me but he hardly ever discusses his health issues with me.
  In my professional life too I succeeded only because of his support. I started my career as a teacher and went on to become the additional Director of Education.  Hardly 2% of the teachers  reach the pinnacle of glory  They say that behind every man’s success there is a woman but I can proudly  say that the secret of my success is the inspiration, encouragement and moral support of my husband.  He is a great soldier who has fought several challenging battles in his life and has come out victorious.  My prayers are always with him. Great MAN I salute you. May your protective hand always  be  with me. I proclaim that he is my

real life HERO battling on all fronts incessently!







 

 






13 comments:

  1. The Lancelot, the chivalrous among your knights!

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  2. That was a heart warming post Usha ma'm. Our family is indeed the first thing that comes to our mind if we start pondering on our pillars of strength. .

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    1. Thanks Malini.You are correct ones family is foremost in our life.My daughter and son-in-law ,both are doctors and are a great support for us .

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  3. I salute you and the men in in your life too. Proud to know you Ma. This is such an inspiring post.

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    1. Thank you Alka for your supportive words. soaked in affection! It is the love and concern of the youngsters that keep my spirits high. Thanks again Alka. God bless you.

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  4. A true knight in shining armour and a true soul mate! Not many possess so many virtues!!

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  5. Thank you Rahul for visiting my site. You are an experienced and accomplished writer. Your comments are valuable and welcomed.

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  6. Wow, so wonderful to read about the men who have inspired you. Lovely to hear their stories and to know more about you.

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    1. Thank you Rachna.. Your visit is always encouraging and invaluable.

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  7. Usha, A wonderful reminder to be thankful for the blessings we have!What a beautiful write up! It's definitely going to change our ways of looking at things. We need reminders now and then. Thank you. Have a blessed day, my friend.
    You are precious...not only for your family, but for your friends as well.♥ Take care.

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  8. Thank you Panchali.for such encouraging comments. I always look forward for comments by you. They are precious for me.

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  9. Such a beautiful, heart-felt post dear Usha! How wonderful to have a man - your husband - such as yours in your life to be your pillar of support. And how victorious a marriage to be married that long: congrats to you and may you both enjoy the fruits of your retired life together! <3

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