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Wednesday 18 June 2014

Curiousity Indian style.



Understanding the Impact of Rumors and Gossip

 Who  came to your house last night? Is your daughter -in-law expecting? Do you know that the boy next door is having an affair with the girl staying up stairs? Have you seen how she dresses up. Wearing jeans! How shameful!! Such questions/ statements you hear every day and they do not surprise you. Wherever  two or more women  are seen together, the topic of conversation will be something based on the statements  stated above. What to speak of women, even  men have their own subjects of discussions, based on rumours, and  baseless talks. The most  common discussion is generally  the boss.  So and so  is the 'chamcha' of the  boss, he carries tales to the boss. Whether these statements are true or not, it is a fact that such blabber mouths carry gossips and blurt them out indiscreetly.
            Often we find women indulging in gossips. Generally they are silly topics that they discuss. It is like an instrument of spending time at the cost of spoiling some one's reputation. Why must people be interested in what is cooking in the neighbour's house ?A new bride has come in a neighbouring house. She will be judged from head to toe. I remember that when I went as a bride to a small village in Kerala, there was no end to women coming in groups and peeping inside. Ocassionally they would giggle.  For them a woman coming from Delhi was  an exhibit.  I called some of them near me. Instead of coming near ,they would hide their face and run away. All of them were illiterate villagers, who had never stepped out of the village .
                     But  everyday when I stepped outside, I felt quite embarrassed. Piercing glances made me  feel very awkward. They were generally amused at the sight of a high heeled  footwear, sleeveless blouse, dark lipstick and make up. The maximum I could do was to not to apply lipstick.
 But there was a greater surprise in store for them. They literally  collapsed when they saw me  driving. It appeared that they would collapse at the sight of a woman driving a car. It amused me to see them shocked. 
One of the habits which tickled me was that when Keralites meet, they do not wish each other. They just smile. The broader the smile, the greater is the love/ affection on seeing each other! Another  typical habit by which you can recognise a Keralite is their approval of a suggestion or saying yes, when something is offered to them. Instead of shaking their neck forward and  backward, they shake it right to left or left to write as shown below in the video
                              
           
video courtesy you tube
pic. courtesy google
This article is not directed or biased towards any particular person/state. It is only meant as a hilarious incident.














15 comments:

  1. Ha I can relate to your plight then! Guess its the same situation across the south of India. I remember how I would be scrutinized as a kid when I used to visit relatives in the south. Not putting bindi on your head was like a crime...it meant that you've converted your religion!
    Loved reading this!

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    1. Thanmk you Vinodini. Your experience is also the same as mine.

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  2. The post is a hoot Ma'am :D Coming from Kerala myself, I know what you must have gone through. It's the same story even now. No matter how times change, people simply do not ! I'm fed of hearing the 'Any good news?' question now! People love to poke their noses into things that hardly concern them! Loved it :)

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    1. Thank you Arithra. It is the same story for all of us. Only god knows when all this will change!!

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  3. So well said, Usha Ma'am. I can totally relate with the losers having one pass time, to know what's happening in other people's lives, except themselves.

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    1. Thank you Vishal . You are correct. It is a pass time for the losers.

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  4. Hmm being a Keralite I can guess the plight, the dissection you were put in , in Kerala when you were at your in- laws as an young bride.
    As for gossips, it is mostly the idle ones- I mean those Kitty party kind.

    The land of Kathakali and Mohiniyattam - what else can you expect in Kerala without the nod of the head telling the message?

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    1. Thank you Anil. I believe things are changing now.

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  5. Haha :) Very true, Usha Ma'm :) Most of the people there are like, " everything about myself is private; everything about others is public " :P
    But slowly the trend is changing, as people get more exposure. But the " when are you giving us a good news" is something that's still the same :)

    And for the head nod, well, I'm nodding my head to that :P

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    1. Thanks Sreeja. It is good that there is a change in the in the approach of the people.

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  6. Some things will never change I guess ushaji, esp the way a new bride is scrutinised... We Indians speak a special language of nodding, that is uniquely Indian :D

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    1. Yes Reshma,you rightly said that some things will never change.

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  7. Wonder why some women act the way they do. But I do see positive changes. Which is a welcome sign.

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    1. Yes Alka ,things are changing at snail speed. Thanks for reading and your precious comments.

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  8. LOL @ The best I could do was not to apply lipstick :)

    Destination Infinity

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