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Saturday, 28 December 2013

Charity begins at home



 Today I  am completing  three hundred posts. In this journey of two years of blogging I have learnt many things. I have made many  friends,some  whom I met in  my early days of blogging,and continue to be my well wishers, some  others left , and some who join this wagon  occasionally and  leave. This has been a journey in which I  have experienced many trials and tribulations.  By and large I have   enjoyed  writing  on different subjects. There is a healthy reaction  between the  bloggers.

   Now follows today;s post
   In our daily life we come across many people. There are some with whom you develop friendship, and maintain cordial relations. There are some who come and go and leave a stamp on our mind.
An old adage ‘A man is a social animal’is very true..We exist in a society.We all need the society as much as the society needs us.It is a  case of give and take,  mutual trust and understanding.Some people adopt the ‘I don’t care’ attitude,but at some stage of their life they come to terms with reality.The question arises,  after all what comprises human relations. Human relations, as I understand, is the  interaction  between  individuals .This interaction can be  at the level of:
  family  members,neighbours, .work place  associates  and society  at  large,  which includes relatives and friends.
 No  one can survive without communication. For  the  water  that we drink,  the delectable food on our dining table , the house  that we live in and  hundreds of luxuries that we enjoy,  are the result of  mutual  human involvement.  Even  a  hermit , living in seclusion, is indirectly the beneficiary  of the labour  of others.   
 We learn our first lesson of maintaining  good will from our family. If a family is well knit and has a positive outlook, it will be transmitted to the members. Here the Mother’s role is very significant.It  is the mother who has to inculcate   good values in the children.The concept of  tolerance, concern for the feelings of others  and to a  large extent selflessness, good behaviour  and co-operation  is acquired by the children  in their early years . These  values get ingrained  in their system. The mother ,therefore,  is  a psychologist.who can  effectively  judge the emotions of her  household.  The  mother  is the  first and foremost  teacher.
 Next  comes the school. The school plays a very important part  in the development of the child.  The character  building process starts within the boundary of the school.The qualities of  sharing,  give and take  and shouldering responsibility  are acquired at the school level. It is within  the precincts of  the school  that the qualities of  head and heart  and  discipline are imbibed in the individual  and  equip   him to face the challenges  of   life.  Education  will not be   complete if the child is not  exposed to the vagaries  of  the harsh world.  It is generally noticed  that the  children who have not  taken  any  formal education, are by nature  not very  co-operative   and do not possess a very pleasing disposition. The  habits that we have acquired in childhood in   our school and college remain with us forever. In fact these experiences form  the basis  of human relations.  Education  leads us to the royal path of virtues   like  equanimity,  good will  and  fellow feeling.          As we grow  we   come across various characters,  young and old,  pleasant and not so   pleasant, fun loving and morose. We have to tackle  them  all. Human  nature varies from person to person. We have to adjust  with every one. I  have  come across  characters  of all sorts during the course of my professional life. Dealing  with  human beings enabled  me   to  judge the natural  bent of mind  of individuals  to a great extent.The test of  a person’s credibility  in maintaining harmony starts from home. 
We have many times noticed  that  some people  who  show exemplary behaviour ,have a co operative  approach  and are very helpful  to others in the outside world  are  dictators at home.They are intolerant  and  virtually  abusive  and insensitive   towards the feelings and  requirements of their own family. Such  persons    are   utter failures  in  life. If we are good  within  the four walls of our home,it reflects on our  face  and personality. It is true saying that charity begins at home.
There are ten commandments of  good  behaviour( These have been taken from the google)
1.Speak to people: There  is nothing as nice  as a cheerful word of  greeting.
2. Smile at people : It takes 72 muscles to frown  and only 14 to smile. 
3. Call people by name: The sweetest music to anyone is  the sound of his/her own name.
4. Be friendly and helpful: If you want friends. you must be one.
5.Be cordial : Speak and act as if every thing you do is a joy for you.
6.Be genuinely interested in people: You can like almost  anyone if you try.
7.Be generous with praise : Be cautious with criticism.
8.Be considerate with the feelings of others :Usually there are three sides to a controversy Yours, the other fellows and the right side.
9,Be eager to lend a helping hand:Often  it is appreciated  more than you know
10. Add to this:  A good sense of humour, a huge dose of patience and a dash of humility. This combination will open many doors and the rewards will be enormous.
 









33 comments:

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  2. Heartiest Congratulations for your 300th post! You've been doing well. I'm sure you'll achieve more successes in blogging. Thank you for sharing a very inspiring post today. :)

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    1. Thank you Balqis. Thanks also for your good wishes.

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  3. Congrats on the 300th post Usha, very motivating to know about your blogging journey.
    Yes, a mother fails and everything else at home falls apart.. all good things start from her, from home.

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    1. Thanks Padmaja. Mother is the nucleus of every household.

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  4. 300 ... wow !!! May you keep writing, and very soon, I will be reading your 3000th post :-)

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  5. By the way congratulations for blogging and keeping it going.
    I do endorse your points. I would like to add upon your observation. I feel that informal education is as important as formal training if not more. There is indeed a wide world of experiences outside text books.
    And finally perhaps it is easier to deal with animals than Homo sapiens.

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    1. Thank you Anil.I agree with you that formal training is not necessary for the development of the child. I feel if the child never attends any school, he does not know the importance of human interaction.

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  6. Congrats on the milestone, Ma'm :) Your indomitable spirit is a guiding force for many bloggers like me , who continue to draw inspiration from you. Thank you, Ma'm :)

    And this is a very valid write-up. As usual, you have hit the nail right on its head.

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    1. Thank you Sreeja.Your comments always motivate me.

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  7. Congratulations Ushaji for the milestone achieved! A thoughtful post indeed. Wishing you and your family a Happy New Year!

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    1. Thank you Rahul. Wish you and your family a very Happy New Year.

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  8. 300 posts!! That's awesome, Ma'am. Hearty congratulations!
    The 10 commandments are simply must follow at all times. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thank you Shilpa.I could achieve this number due to the inspiration provided by friends and well wishers like you.

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  9. Nice post Usha.Congrats on completing 300 posts-wow!
    And a very Happy New Year to you and your dear ones.

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    1. Thanks a lot Indu. Wish you a happy new year and welcome to my site.

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  10. Congrats on completing 300 posts! The main issue with society and interaction is - it takes two hands to clap. If others want to slap us, we cannot clap with them. But I agree with your basic principles - we need them in order to work with anyone at any level.

    Destination Infinity

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    1. Thank you Rajesh. You have rightly said that interaction has to be two sided. ., but we cannot exist without any interaction.

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  11. Happy 300 Ushaji!! I'm sure there are many more 100's of posts waiting to come out on your blog :) Charity begins at home indeed and a mother is everyone's first and most influential teacher. Life is all about being smart and learning from the wise, I like the way you combine words of wisdom with real life experiences.

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    1. Thank you Reshma.Where were you all these days? Missed you very much.

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  12. Your 10 commandments are relevant for ever.
    Hope to read a lot more from you.

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  13. Congratulations Usha Ji :)And your advice is something we should all follow whenever possible..

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  14. Such a great post Usha as indeed we are social beings and require interaction and communication. I've heard an expression though vague in my mind about the importance of communication. And I love your list. It reminds me of Dale Carnegie and I'm curious, is it? ;) Glad to have met a kind and cordial person like you Usha, even if only online! :) <3

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    1. Thanks Elly. your words always boost my morale.

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  15. congratulations on reaching the milestone. Your posts reminds me of good old days when we used to greet all uncle and auntys of the colony... these days we are so busy looking at our phones that we hardly greet anyone. Sometime I feel we are becoming socially backward.

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    1. yes Raj,those were the days when life was not so complicated.

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  16. Congratulations on this great milestone, Usha mam! I love your ten commandments. In this age of social media and internet communication, the old charm of greeting is lost. But I love the kind of communication and warmth that runs in this blogging world :-)

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    1. Thanks Uma for such inspiring comment.

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