If you are a parentyou must have noticed and experiencedthe behaviour patternofyour childrenat every stage of
theirgrowing up. The evolution from a
toddler toa teenager to old ageis wrought withadventuresand misadventures. At every stage of a man’s
life there aresignificantas well as insignificanthappenings some of whichare carried over from child hood,when we are growing, till we reach a stage when we haveone leg in the grave.This growingold is an inevitable change. The cycle of life
goes on rotatingirrespective of the
fact whether you like it or not.
At different stages of lifewereact tothe changesas is warranted by nature.Nobody teaches uswhat to do or
how to do . The transitionis natural. For example when I was small
every body called me ‘ baby’,after a few years I became a ‘didi’. As the
yearspassed byI acquiredthe status of a‘bhabi’, ‘mausi’
or ‘aunty’.The wheel of life keeps moving. SuddenlyI am transformed to the status of a ‘madam’.Thiscontinued for a fairlylong time whenI become ‘mataji’
andnow ‘dadi’.No one can change the
direction of this wheel of life.It movesat its ownpace.
At all stages of life weact and
react differently. No one gives you any sermonsof acting according to the age you attain.A small child , hardly a few months old, knows
that by cryinghe will get milk.Hencehe adopts this method. As the childgrows older he devices his own ways and means to achieve whatever he
wants. A common and most effectivemethod which the children adopt at thisstage of life is toaddtheirteacher's nametothe request. The children are very smart.
They very well understand the pulse of theirparents. Sometimes they take the advantage of their parents’ ignorance.
Once a boydemanded money fromhisilliterate father for purchasing a ‘time table ‘ book.At a later date the poor father, on his visit to the school, complained thathe wasspendinga lot of moneyon the son’s education. He specifically
mentioned expenditureon time table
book, which was amusing to the teachers.
When the children enter their teens theirdemands and their requirements too
undergo a sea change. They are at a stage
of life when they are confused. The child isat the cross roads.He seems to be a misfit. Among adultshe is considered to be a childandin
the company of children he istermed
a bully. This is a testing time for the parents too.The famous story of Rabindra Nath
Tagore has very vividlydescribed the
mental state of an adolescent boy and the inability of a widowed motherto handle this child!This the stage of life when the parent canmake a child a friend for life orcreate a distance between him andthe
childfor ever.I quote a few sentences from the story which depict thetransition from childhood toadolescence."It
is impossible to showeraffection on him
as on a little boy; and he is always getting in the way.If he talks with a
childish lisp he is called a baby, and if he answers in a grown-up wayhe is called impertinent.In fact any talk from
him is resented. Then he is at the unattractive growing age.” The parents should be considerate and
have afriendly andpositive approach towards the child at this
stage. The child must feel thathe is ‘wanted’.
Once this barrier is crossed the real
personality of the child comesto the
fore. The children then reach an age
when they can taketheir owndecisions.They attainmaturity and are
capableoffacing the atrocities andchallenges ofthesociety. They are thusmature enough to bring up a family.
There is a story going roundwhich narrates the various stages of life in
ahumorous but brutal way. This is howthe story goes.Inside the four walls of an officelunch hour discussions
are a regular feature.They often discusshow they managed to get the jobthey were holding. Within alapse offour to fiveyears thetopic for discussion isabout interviews , which their children have to face in various schools .With the passage of time the conversations are turned towardstheir own promotions . Who got the promotion,who was overlooked and so on. As they grow older theyseek information aboutthe marriage oftheir children and where did they settle down.Slowly but surelythetopicchangesto their own retirement, enquiring whohas settled down and where. Now comes the age of sufferings and ourfriends whenever they meetdiscusstheir mutualafflictions and
ailments.The next time they meettheydiscuss who among their friends or colleagues haveslept ineternal sleep. Thus goes onlife!!Human nature being the same,generation after generation the
same story of life is repeated. The venue and theme of the story remains the same! Only
the characters change!!