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Thursday, 31 July 2014

My fears

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 Who does'nt have  any fear. Every one has experienced fear at some time in his/her life. When a child is small, it is the parents ,who are responsible for inculcating some or the other fear in the child's  mind. Just sample this. The mother tells the child," Don't go to that room alone at night. There are ghosts there". "Drink your milk or the 'baba' will put you in his bag." or"Don;t go out  alone at night, a snake may bite you".  The result is that a fear complex  overtakes  us right  from childhood. 
A very common fear which almost everyone has experienced is  addressing a  group of people.I  too had this fear right from childhood. I remember when guests came home, my father would invariably ask me to sing a song. Immediately the fear complex would over power me. Those days parents were not very  receptive. I remember that on this account, I got   beatings from my parents. The result  was that  the fear, which developed in childhood, continued till I  grew up. 
                            I joined the Education Department as a teacher. Within six years I was promoted as the Principal of a school. Teaching a class was not a problem; the same students  I had to face every day.  As Principal, I had to address the assembly. The very thought gave me goose bumps. In the beginning I used to write on a piece of paper, whatever I had to speak.  Slowly I discarded the paper and started addressing the assembly impromptu.  After I was promoted to higher positions, I could  address even an audience of thousand people  extempore. It became a second nature with me.
                                            I have got another fear complex. I cannot say 'no' to anyone. I have a feeling that if I refuse to  comply  or  do something against the request/order of  others, they will  break friendship with me. I  am now slowly trying to overcome this habit. I hope I will succeed in  giving up the practice very soon.I promise to myself that I will make all efforts to make my self courageous  and self confident.


Written in response to Everyday Gyan, Write Tribe Carnival 'what would I do if I was'nt afraid'.







                                                            

20 comments:

  1. That was an inspirational story Ushaji. Our fears push us to our extremes and that's what our lesson should be at the end. Saying no seems near to impossible for me too but slowly and steadily I am trying to break free from that problem. Nice take on the prompt. :)

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    1. Thanks a lot Eloquent Mind. Everybody has some fears,,,, that is human nature. We should always try to be free from them.

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  2. In my life,thank God,I have never feared any situation except one.....
    I get into a flight and I am scared to death...Flying is all that I fear.I sweat,my palms are wet.

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    1. Thank God you are free of all fears. Scare of flying too will also leave you with your strong will power.

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  3. i know exactly what you mean.....and i love the way you've decided to get rid of ur fears...!

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    1. Titli, you can assess what is going in my mind. Thank you a lot.

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  4. I am not able to write a good story and do my job. I feel it's in our minds, fear of not able to complete UBC or write my novel. As a child, I had to battle with so many fears and I still do!

    http://vishal-newkidontheblock.blogspot.com/2014/07/an-orkut-love-story-chapter-31.html

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    1. Vishal,there is nobody who is free of fears. But the fears that you have mentioned here can easily be driven away by will power. Buck up ! Be strong !! Have faith in your capabilities!!!

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  5. I guess the second kind of fear, the fear to say "no" - this is graver .

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    1. Yes Anil, the fear to say "no" is indeed difficult. With experience we can slowly get rid of it.

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  6. Usha Maam , I as a child was afraid of darkness and ghosts. but my mom made me understand that ghosts did not exist and it was a figment of our imagination.
    Later in life I learnt to say no.

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    1. Actually mothers play a very vital role in making the children free of any sort of fear.

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  7. Hey nicely written, yes as a child I was extremely scared of darkness and ghosts but as days passed by there were other things that were in reality more scary !
    As a request can u visit this post and share ur views on it
    http://www.ananyatales.com/2014/07/is-motherhood-choice.html

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    1. Hi Ananya, thanks for the words of appreciation. BTW, I have already read your post and commented.

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  8. Loved how you faced your fears, Ushajee.

    It is a choice, and it is upto us :)

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    1. Thank you Ruchira.Yes it is upto an individual how he/she faces the situation.

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  9. I share ur fear of addressing many people but even though I'm still afraid I try not to let it be shown.... And sometimes I find it easy to say no but at other times it's hard..especially with near and dear ones

    Fearless...

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    1. Thank you Naba. Public speaking is an art, which one has to acquire by practice.

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  10. welcome to my world mam, saying no is the hardest and I do pray to god to make me learn the art of saying no as I have been let down a lot of time ..

    I use to to so shy or afraid to talk in front of so many people in school debates etc I use to forget the lines but then you wont beleive my first job was that of a computer instructor in india and as you wrote it became easy and then i joined a school and Now when i came ot uk it helped me a lot when we have to do crowd management , so it helps to try doing things that we are afraid of..

    Bikram's

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  11. With so many great ideas, I'm glad you were able to overcome your fear of public speaking so that others can hear and be inspired!

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