Today is our 55th wedding anniversary. In this journey of togetherness,we have faced many ups and downs, but we always came out as a winner. It was mainly due to our trust, confidence and love for each other which helped us to cross all hurdles successfully.
I had written this post(husband exposed) two years ago. The post has brought back old memories. I am sharing this with friends. The post was written some what in a humourous vein. Even now we remind each other of those days, when we lived life to the fullest.
Last night our children organised a surprise party for us. All our relatives were invited but both of us did not have any inkling.Thank you Deepak and Kavita; thank you Happy and Jyoti. Both of us were overwhelmed This gesture was most unexpected!
|This photo was captured in 1959. |
|Hum dono(we ), with children and grand children|
Though lot of change has come in our life, we are sailing together,due to our mutual regard for each other. For the last one year he has not been keeping fit. I pray to God that He should give him the strength to bear the pain and agony he is suffering.
H Humor/ Hot headed
Every woman will agree that her man possesses these qualities.in some measure or other.The difference in the proportion in which your man exhibits them may differ from man to man, but basically every man is the same.My husband is also not different. He possesses a dual if not hydra- headed personality. He depicts two distinct personalities, one for public consumption and the other reserved specially for me. He is an expert in escapology and it is an arduous task to pin him down. On such occasions he can be compared to an escalator as he moves very fast and can wriggle out of any uncomfortable situation with ease. Many a time I have felt exasperated at his antics. After more than half a century of bonding with him ,I find him inscrutable if not unscrupulous.
He has a vicarious sense of humor. He can laugh at himself and displays it publicly. I will give a small incident which he has narrated umpteen times in the presence of others. On the last day in office , before retirement ,while handing over charge, his strong and sturdy revolving chair broke and he fell down resulting in wild laughter all around.He himself had a hearty laugh and told his staff,"This chair does'nt want any one else to sit on it."
However in the privacy of my company he is an entirely a different character. If I question why he is so serious he quotes a famous Russian writer "If you have a good wife you are blissful, otherwise you would become a saint." I keep guessing whether he is blissful or is a saint!
His mood swings are as unpredictable as weather. You never know when he will flare up and when he will subside.If one thing pleases him one day, the same thing will annoy him the next day.Even the Metrological Department will fail to predict the vagaries of his mood. He is very fond of sleeping. He can drift into sleep without much ado, in any pose and any where. Sometimes it becomes very embarrassing especially when guests are around and he falls into deep slumber!
His greatest asset is procrastination.You may need something urgently or you need his assistance in performing an urgent task.His reply would invariably be "Not now."For that matter, if you want to purchase some essentials for the household, the foregone conclusion is that he will repeat his pet words,"not now."
Another great 'quality'of my dear husband is dodging a matter,how so ever urgent it may be, his pet reply is, "I will do it."To a question,"when?" he has no reply.That 'when' never comes.
A characteristic behaviour of my husband is that he loudly proclaims that he always allows me to have my own way but that way leads to no where. He also announces ,"My madam has the last word," and that he is a yes man. But the truth only I know.
In spite of all his idiosyncrasies and and eccentricities mentioned above my husband is a gem of a person. He has, as my grand daughter states, "Silver in his hair and gold in his heart."There is a common saying,"Behind every successful man there is a woman," but in my case it is the opposite. Whatever I have achieved in my professional and personal life is because of the love, care, understanding and co operation on his part.I thank God for giving me a husband, who is a companion in the real sense.I wish that he be my husband from birth to birth.